Sep 14, Letter to Domestic Violence Victims

Sep 14, Letter to Domestic Violence Victims

By Su Ericksen

The other day in my home town there was a fatal shooting that stemmed from domestic violence. A woman who had been in a long-term abusive relationship decided she?d had enough and obtained a Protection Order against her boyfriend with whom she had two children with.

Her boyfriend reacted to the P.O. by going to the children?s? baby-sitter?s house, tying her up at gun-point, taking her phone?s batteries and the kids and left for his ex-girlfriend?s work place. When he gets there on of her co-workers sees him when she is in her car leaving, calls into the store to warn her co-workers and he shoots her point-blank in the head in her car. He then takes the kids and his gun goes into the business, holds his ex and three other employees hostage for a while then releases them and kills himself.

So what?s my point here? It took this abused woman long enough to have two kids before she decided she had had enough; perhaps he just started the beatings- seems unlikely. When you forgive an abuser the first time you set precedence. So you don?t only put yourself at risk, but also your family (if he doesn?t cut you off from them before that), your children (and they face a huge variety of risks when they come into this sort of relationship), you friends (again, if you have any) and your co-workers (thank you from all co-workers of women with Battered Woman?s Syndrome- especially from all those who were shot and killed because of your inability to handle your own relationships). So your decision to tolerate the beatings and the beater is a selfish and very dangerous one. Abuser have been known to kill their own children just to insure the other won?t get them.

I understand that once you start listening to him and believing you are worthless it becomes almost impossible to break free. ALMOST. It will be one of the hardest things- if not THE hardest things you?ll ever have to do. To come through the other side, to be strong and confident will be worth it, believe me. In any relationship if any violent behavior surfaces, get out NOW- the longer you wait the more dangerous it will be.

Source: http://championsecurityagency.com/champion-security-blog/sep-14-letter-to-domestic-violence-victims/

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